59 ‘One Another’ of the New Testament


Just this week a co-teacher of mine approached me and asked me what do I think about divorce?  I replied to that person that it doesn’t matter what I think about divorce… but rather what God thinks about it. Immediately  I quoted, “GOD HATES DIVORCE” period!  Jesus said in [Matthew 19:6 – So they are no longer two but one flesh. What therefore God has joined together, let not man separate.”]  That is a direct order, command from the King of kings, Lord of lords, creator of the universe.

Then I pressed on saying divorce is not the primary option, or I would say not an option at all, it was permitted by Moses not by God to the Israelites under certain circumstances, BUT FROM THE BEGINNING IT WAS NOT SO. [Matthew 19:8-9 – He said (Jesus) to them, “Because of your hardness of heart Moses allowed you to divorce your wives, but from the beginning it was not so. And I say to you: whoever divorces his wife, except for sexual immorality, and marries another, commits adultery.”].  So clearly because of man’s HARDNESS OF HEART that Moses permitted divorce, It was a regulation as to the mode of putting away; NOT TO JUSTIFY THAT WRONG PRACTICE.

Now my co-teacher who is also a Christian in background, moved on to the next question: how about the ministers, pastors who divorced their spouse?  I’m guessing that what this person is trying to ask was “Is it right for Christians to do such thing? to divorce their spouse?”  I replied “No it is not right”, and that it will be between them and God if they insisted and hardened their hearts, however it is clear in Matthew 19:8-9 that only under two circumstances divorce is permitted by Moses not by God, it was never God’s design in the beginning. Also divorce and remarriage are two different subjects, divorce does not mean automatically that one can remarry.  That will be another topic.  Marriage is not a contract but rather a covenant.  However if we say we are Christians and yet does not keep and obey God… let us look at [Luke 12:48 “But the one who did not know, and did what deserved a beating, will receive a light beating. Everyone to whom much was given, of him much will be required, and from him to whom they entrusted much, they will demand the more.”  God entrusted his commands to us Christians, believers therefore much will be demanded of us because as Christians we know that God hates divorce.

Then I encouraged my co-teacher, the primary goal of troubled married couple is to strive for reconciliation, loving one another, because  marriage is not a contract it is a covenant that reflects the marriage of the Christ and the Church.

First, in Ephesians 5:25 it is said “Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her”… and in Ephesians 5:22 “Wives, submit to your own husbands”.  Despite any circumstances, we are to love our spouse.

Second, if a couple hardened their hearts and agreed to divorce, still there is the second greatest commandment by Jesus in Matthew 22:39 that says “And a second is like it: You shall love your neighbor as yourself.”.  In the New testament alone there are 59 “One Another” commands which laid out the second greatest commandment.  Even if one divorce his/her spouse or not, that person is still a neighbor.

Third, if a  couple divorced because they hardened their hearts, and as neighbors they can’t love one another and really hated one another (especially if both are Christians), then there is a command by Jesus in Matthew 5:44 “But I say to you, Love your enemies and pray for those who persecute you”.  Even if our spouse becomes our enemy, we are commanded by Jesus to love them because that’s what Jesus modeled to us over and over in the scripture.

Then on I said, If we think we are serving God right… and yet have not forgive, yet divorced our spouse, yet have not love our neighbor, yet have not love our enemies; we are digging our own hole in which we’re going to fall.

We can be “anointed” ministers yet our oil stinks and there will never be a breakthrough.  Even if we’ll have a breakthrough our enemies will get us.  [Ecclesias 10: 8 “He who digs a pit will fall into it, and a serpent will bite him who breaks through a wall.”]


To expand the weight of the second greatest commandment “Love your neighbors as yourselves” here are the 59 “One another” in the new testament:

1          “…Be at peace with each other.” – Mark 9:50
2          “…Wash one another’s feet.” – John 13:14
3          “…Love one another…” – John 13:34
4          “…Love one another…” – John 13:34
5          “…Love one another…” – John 13:35
6          “…Love one another…” – John 15:12
7          “…Love one another” – John 15:17
8          “Be devoted to one another in brotherly love…” – Romans 12:10
9          “…Honor one another above yourselves. – Romans 12:10
10       “Live in harmony with one another…” – Romans 12:16
11       “…Love one another…” – Romans 13:8
12       “…Stop passing judgment on one another.” – Romans 14:13
13       “Accept one another, then, just as Christ accepted you…” – Romans 15:7
14       “…Instruct one another.” – Romans 15:14
15       “Greet one another with a holy kiss…” – Romans 16:16
16       “…When you come together to eat, wait for each other.” – I Cor. 11:33
17       “…Have equal concern for each other.” – I Corinthians 12:25
18       “…Greet one another with a holy kiss.” – I Corinthians 16:20
19       “Greet one another with a holy kiss.” – II Corinthians 13:12
20       “…Serve one another in love.” – Galatians 5:13
21       “If you keep on biting and devouring each other…you will be destroyed by each other.” – Galatians 5:15
22       “Let us not become conceited, provoking and envying each other.” – Galatians 5:26
23       “Carry each other’s burdens…” – Galatians 6:2
24       “…Be patient, bearing with one another in love.” – Ephesians 4:2
25       “Be kind and compassionate to one another…”  – Ephesians 4:32
26       “…Forgiving each other…”  – Ephesians 4:32
27       “Speak to one another with psalms, hymns and spiritual songs.” – Ephesians 5:19
28       “Submit to one another out of reverence for Christ.” – Ephesians 5:21
29       “…In humility consider others better than yourselves.” – Philippians 2:3
30       “Do not lie to each other…” – Colossians 3:9
31       “Bear with each other…” – Colossians 3:13
32       “…Forgive whatever grievances you may have against one another.” – Colossians 3:13
33       “Teach…[one another]” – Colossians 3:16
34       “…Admonish one another ”  – Colossians 3:16
35       “…Make your love increase and overflow for each other.” – I Thessalonians 3:12
36       “…Love each other.” I Thessalonians 4:9
37       “…Encourage each other…” – I Thessalonians 4:18
38       “…Encourage each other…” – I Thessalonians 5:11
39       “…Build each other up…” – I Thessalonians 5:11
40       “Encourage one another daily…” – Hebrews 3:13
41       “…Spur one another on toward love and good deeds.” – Hebrews 10:24
42       “…Encourage one another.” – Hebrews 10:25
43       “…Do not slander one another.” – James 4:11
44       “Don’t grumble against each other…” – James 5:9
45       “Confess your sins to each other…” – James 5:16
46       “…Pray for each other.” – James 5:16
47       “…Love one another deeply, from the heart.” – I Peter 3:8
48       “…Live in harmony with one another…”   I Peter 3:8
49       “…Love each other deeply…” – I Peter 4:8
50       “Offer hospitality to one another without grumbling.” – I Peter 4:9
51       “Each one should use whatever gift he has received to serve others…” – I Peter 4:10
52       “…Clothe yourselves with humility toward one another…” – I Peter 5:5
53       “Greet one another with a kiss of love.” – I Peter 5:14
54       “…Love one another.” – I John 3:11
55       “…Love one another.” – I John 3:23
56       “…Love one another.” – I John 4:7
57       “…Love one another.” – I John 4:11
58       “…Love one another.” – I John 4:12
59       “…Love one another.” – II John 5

Praise be to God because loving one another is never a contract but rather our covenant with God to pursue our love to Him.



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